Before the day even began I was pretty down on myself. I had about 7 numbers I had collected that I needed to follow up on. I also had the girl from the other night where I hesitated on moving and pulling because of logistics. I need to move into Manhattan, I really think the Queens commute is fucking with my mindset and fucking with my game. I realize that moving is an external fix, but I really want to be closer to where I meet girls. I feel that I hesitate with planning dates with girls, and I also realize being in Queens really hurts my ability to go out knowing I am coming home with a girl.
I end up calling the girls, 2 of them picked up. Either initial interaction wasn't solid, or I waited too long and the numbers expired. Either way, it didn't work out.
For Tuesday night, I was sick of going to West Village, so I checked out myopenbar.com and found a place in the Lower East Side called Happy Endings. Before we hit that, we made a stop at Fat Baby and Piano's with nothing going on at all except for this lone wolf set that Raven went after. On the way to Happy Endings, we saw these 2 short skinny brunettes, one with a short skirt and stockings. I wanted that one. Didn't approach.
Open bar, we drank, we chilled, and the crowd filled in as this happened. I don't remember all my approached, I took too long to write this report I think, but I did end up approaching stockings and pulling Raven in to wing. It was a boring conversation, no idea what happened but I ended up ejecting.
We saw them a little later after one friend joined them and Raven went back to his target in that set. I wanted to go back for mine, but she was dancing. At the time, I realized that this is me saying "I give a fuck about the outcome, what the fuck is wrong with you" but I just couldn't get over it.
Saw a group of about 5 people show up with a cute blond in red. No thinking, no analyzing, just walk, touch and talk. Direct opener, she's completely into it. Quick claw, and it's on. There's about 10 minutes before open bar ends so her friends hurry her, and I lose her for the moment. I ended up reapproaching her and we go through some bantering, with me starting to talk about comfort topics. She asks me for my card, which was new to me and took me aback for the moment. We vibe some more, and then I end up asking her for her number. Her response:
As she is shaking her head lightly, she says "bad timing..." and then 5 seconds later, a guy comes and hugs her. Oooooooohhhhhhhh! She's meeting a date, and that is why she asked for my card rather than have me take down her number.
The guy goes to talk to some other people and her and I laugh about it. Yea, she had a date coming, and I lost my window. Oh well. That's all I can remember from this night.
Thursday, April 9, 2009
Day 7 - West Village, BT Piggyback
Monday nights are tough since Raven and I don't really know any Monday night venues. We go to the usual smelly ass bars over at West Village, and it's just pretty dead. When I go out on these nights, it really makes me appreciate Fridays and Saturdays, and I felt particularly bad I missed the Friday previous.
We walked into Off the Wagon. The smelliest of the bars in West Village, but hey, they had $1 beers, and I'm always appreciative of that. On my way in, I spotted a tall thin brunette. I wanted it. She was with 2 guys, with one of the guys all over her. I wanted it. I'll go for it later, I tell myself, hoping I actually follow through on it.
Tonight really was dead, I winged Raven on this 3 set we worked for a while. I had no idea who his target was, so I just tried to keep whoever he wasn't engaging engaged. Eventually, I thought I figured it out, and then he goes and switches targets. He opened, he runs it, I'm just there to help him. During this whole time, I am keeping an eye on the tall thin brunette, thinking there must be some way in.
I saw her get hollared by some frat boys on her way to the bathroom, with her exchanging some glances with them, but nothing beyond that. I chat with Raven and I notice her grabbing her coat and saying something to her friends (not friendly words). Without a word, I grab my jacket and I am out of there. Walk up to her, notice she is taller than me (I'm 5'10), and go in with a "you are fuckin' adorable". Huge beaming smile, and she asks me with a smile "where the hell did you come from?". I tell her I was inside the bar, to which she says she hates it in there and the people in there. Her BT is super high, those guys must have done a number on her. She hugs me, and I hold her hand breaking out of it. I tell her we are going for a walk, and we walk around the corner. Try to figure out logistics, she lives at xyz, I live at abc, she is supposed to go to a a nightclub after this. During this time, my phone rings loudly, it's Raven, I ignore but it's distracting me (note to self, silence cell phone). I could have made out with her, but I wimped out. So at this point, I'm thinking, how do I get this girl to my car (2 blocks away), and where am I going to extract her to? As this happens, her friends found her (the two guys literally split up and scoured the area of the bar to find her) and pull her away from me. It was swift, and I was too slow to react. Sigh
Raven and I ended up bouncing, but not before jumping out of the car in turn to open random street sets.
We walked into Off the Wagon. The smelliest of the bars in West Village, but hey, they had $1 beers, and I'm always appreciative of that. On my way in, I spotted a tall thin brunette. I wanted it. She was with 2 guys, with one of the guys all over her. I wanted it. I'll go for it later, I tell myself, hoping I actually follow through on it.
Tonight really was dead, I winged Raven on this 3 set we worked for a while. I had no idea who his target was, so I just tried to keep whoever he wasn't engaging engaged. Eventually, I thought I figured it out, and then he goes and switches targets. He opened, he runs it, I'm just there to help him. During this whole time, I am keeping an eye on the tall thin brunette, thinking there must be some way in.
I saw her get hollared by some frat boys on her way to the bathroom, with her exchanging some glances with them, but nothing beyond that. I chat with Raven and I notice her grabbing her coat and saying something to her friends (not friendly words). Without a word, I grab my jacket and I am out of there. Walk up to her, notice she is taller than me (I'm 5'10), and go in with a "you are fuckin' adorable". Huge beaming smile, and she asks me with a smile "where the hell did you come from?". I tell her I was inside the bar, to which she says she hates it in there and the people in there. Her BT is super high, those guys must have done a number on her. She hugs me, and I hold her hand breaking out of it. I tell her we are going for a walk, and we walk around the corner. Try to figure out logistics, she lives at xyz, I live at abc, she is supposed to go to a a nightclub after this. During this time, my phone rings loudly, it's Raven, I ignore but it's distracting me (note to self, silence cell phone). I could have made out with her, but I wimped out. So at this point, I'm thinking, how do I get this girl to my car (2 blocks away), and where am I going to extract her to? As this happens, her friends found her (the two guys literally split up and scoured the area of the bar to find her) and pull her away from me. It was swift, and I was too slow to react. Sigh
Raven and I ended up bouncing, but not before jumping out of the car in turn to open random street sets.
Day 6 - Daygame
Not much went on today. It was a Sunday, I slept in and then went out for some day game.
I was on line for $1 pizza when out of the corner of my eye, I saw a 3 set walking down the street. Even as they passed me, I was thinking
$1 pizza or approach?
$1 pizza or approach?
$1 pizza or approach?
Fuck it, I am approaching, hunger can wait! I walk up to the group, and as I am walking up, I pick a target. Guess what! they don't speak the English. Oh well, I lost my appetite.
During the walk from East Village to Union Square, I spot a turbo hottie crossing the street towards my side. I let her cross, and gallop towards her. Direct opener, shock and awe, walk with her, get number, interview questions, stories, depart. This girl was smoking hot. I can only imagine how she would look dressed for a nightclub.
Made one more approach at Wholefoods, she was chewing when I came in. Funny moment there. She says she has a boyfriend, to which I responded with "Perfect! We have someone to hold the camera for us!"
That was about it.
I was on line for $1 pizza when out of the corner of my eye, I saw a 3 set walking down the street. Even as they passed me, I was thinking
$1 pizza or approach?
$1 pizza or approach?
$1 pizza or approach?
Fuck it, I am approaching, hunger can wait! I walk up to the group, and as I am walking up, I pick a target. Guess what! they don't speak the English. Oh well, I lost my appetite.
During the walk from East Village to Union Square, I spot a turbo hottie crossing the street towards my side. I let her cross, and gallop towards her. Direct opener, shock and awe, walk with her, get number, interview questions, stories, depart. This girl was smoking hot. I can only imagine how she would look dressed for a nightclub.
Made one more approach at Wholefoods, she was chewing when I came in. Funny moment there. She says she has a boyfriend, to which I responded with "Perfect! We have someone to hold the camera for us!"
That was about it.
Monday, April 6, 2009
Day 5 - 03/27/09
Decided to check out Slate. Got there and I had to put down my name and e-mail address for some party. Get in and it's open bar. Awesome!!! Grab my drinks and Raven and I started hitting sets. Mostly amusing ourselves to get social. We find out that we somehow stumbled upon Dave Chapelle's party. Neither Raven or I saw him.
I meet a friend of mine upstairs and take a look. There was one big set with some chaperone (seriously, mothers taking their daughter out to a nightclub) and other small sets. I wing Raven and the other friend in a 3 set. I came in, talked a little, told the girl I couldn't hear her, signaling her to move towards me, and bam! the 3 set is now divided. All 3 girls were cute, so no complaints. It was a fairly logical conversation, not as flirty as I would have wanted it, but it was good enough as a warm up. Those girls end up going to the bar for drinks, and we decided to bail on them.
So the group with the chaperone had this tall thin brunette. I had to approach her. I hate that I have to tell my wings ahead of time as if I need someone to tell me I'm not crazy. This is something I will have to get over, and get over soon. I walk up to the girl and tell her she looks cute as hell tonight. From the peanut gallery, I hear, "that guy deserves a drink for that". Ignore and continue. Turns out it's her 21st b-day party! Woah. Chat with her some more, a friend of hers is giving me dirty looks. Ignore some more and continue. The friend, without addressing me pulls her away. Sigh. It wasn't super on, but it was on enough to keep it going. Damn cockblocks!
I hesitate and chicken out on some more girls, and then I saw basically the hottest girl I had seen that night. No hesitation, walk, touch, speak. "You are fuckin' adorable, I had to some meet you". She tells me she has a boyfriend immediately, her 2 friends also leave me alone with her immediately, so we chat for a bit. It felt on. She told me again she had a boyfriend and can't do this. I let her go, but before she goes, she kisses me on the neck, on a side her friends wouldn't see, slowly and passionately..... I must have done something right.
We ended up bouncing. As we were walking to my car, I walk past a 4 set, 3 girls and 1 guy. I turn back and pick a target and tell her she is cute as hell. Again, words from the peanut gallery
"Awe, that is so sweet, yea, she does look cute tonight" - from girl 1
"Hey, don't be shy, talk to him" - from girl 2
"Are you gay?" - from chode guy
Again, ignore.
I don't understand why girls don't believe that I am giving them a genuine compliment. Sometimes they look at me like I'm just shooting words and don't mean it. I swear, the same line on the same caliber girls with the same delivery can generate all sorts of results. I end up leaving
Bounce over to Cooper 35 where they have $5 cocktails! I had enough to drink so I didn't take advantage. I go into a 2 set with this hot blond chick (did not realize it was a 2 set until Raven came out of no where to talk to the friend, thanks man). We ended up bouncing them to the patio. Some of their guy friends came out to give us shit, but we just paid them no attention, and they left. Raven and I tried to bounce them to the bar for drinks, I think we took too long, because by that time, they decided they wanted to go back to their friends.
Approached another cute blond chick with a direct opener. Her responseThanks, but you already said that to me a couple of weeks ago, at the Park." Busted! Haha, my response - "So great to see you haven't changed at all!" Set didn't really go anywhere.
Ended up bouncing to Solas, with nothing really going on. We did run into TheJudge and GoldenChild
I need to stay in set longer, isolate sooner, and move girls faster.
I meet a friend of mine upstairs and take a look. There was one big set with some chaperone (seriously, mothers taking their daughter out to a nightclub) and other small sets. I wing Raven and the other friend in a 3 set. I came in, talked a little, told the girl I couldn't hear her, signaling her to move towards me, and bam! the 3 set is now divided. All 3 girls were cute, so no complaints. It was a fairly logical conversation, not as flirty as I would have wanted it, but it was good enough as a warm up. Those girls end up going to the bar for drinks, and we decided to bail on them.
So the group with the chaperone had this tall thin brunette. I had to approach her. I hate that I have to tell my wings ahead of time as if I need someone to tell me I'm not crazy. This is something I will have to get over, and get over soon. I walk up to the girl and tell her she looks cute as hell tonight. From the peanut gallery, I hear, "that guy deserves a drink for that". Ignore and continue. Turns out it's her 21st b-day party! Woah. Chat with her some more, a friend of hers is giving me dirty looks. Ignore some more and continue. The friend, without addressing me pulls her away. Sigh. It wasn't super on, but it was on enough to keep it going. Damn cockblocks!
I hesitate and chicken out on some more girls, and then I saw basically the hottest girl I had seen that night. No hesitation, walk, touch, speak. "You are fuckin' adorable, I had to some meet you". She tells me she has a boyfriend immediately, her 2 friends also leave me alone with her immediately, so we chat for a bit. It felt on. She told me again she had a boyfriend and can't do this. I let her go, but before she goes, she kisses me on the neck, on a side her friends wouldn't see, slowly and passionately..... I must have done something right.
We ended up bouncing. As we were walking to my car, I walk past a 4 set, 3 girls and 1 guy. I turn back and pick a target and tell her she is cute as hell. Again, words from the peanut gallery
"Awe, that is so sweet, yea, she does look cute tonight" - from girl 1
"Hey, don't be shy, talk to him" - from girl 2
"Are you gay?" - from chode guy
Again, ignore.
I don't understand why girls don't believe that I am giving them a genuine compliment. Sometimes they look at me like I'm just shooting words and don't mean it. I swear, the same line on the same caliber girls with the same delivery can generate all sorts of results. I end up leaving
Bounce over to Cooper 35 where they have $5 cocktails! I had enough to drink so I didn't take advantage. I go into a 2 set with this hot blond chick (did not realize it was a 2 set until Raven came out of no where to talk to the friend, thanks man). We ended up bouncing them to the patio. Some of their guy friends came out to give us shit, but we just paid them no attention, and they left. Raven and I tried to bounce them to the bar for drinks, I think we took too long, because by that time, they decided they wanted to go back to their friends.
Approached another cute blond chick with a direct opener. Her responseThanks, but you already said that to me a couple of weeks ago, at the Park." Busted! Haha, my response - "So great to see you haven't changed at all!" Set didn't really go anywhere.
Ended up bouncing to Solas, with nothing really going on. We did run into TheJudge and GoldenChild
I need to stay in set longer, isolate sooner, and move girls faster.
Day 4
Visited a friend in Connecticut. I asked her to take me out to flirt with women, if even for 20 minutes. She wanted to stay in, so I stayed and chilled with her. Maybe I should have looked for sets at the rest stops during the drive.
I will tack on 2 days to the end to make up for this.
I will tack on 2 days to the end to make up for this.
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Day 3 - Bar Hopping and Rain
Rainy day, which believe it or not, affects my mood. I didn't have any friends want to go out with me, so I went out on my own. This community is weird in that you can barely know some people, and they understand that you are on the same path of self-improvement and going for what you want and see you as a brother. I ran into Davinci and Captain Awesome in Wholefoods and decided to go bar hopping with them after a brief chat.
Rain sucked, we went to this bar in West Village which was having a karaoke night. Didn't see much when i walked in, so I broke from the group to find my girlfriend for the night. I have this thing that turns on and off, where I want to break away from the group and find something before one of the other guys spots her first. I find that when someone else spots her first, it can turn out one of two ways, he goes in before I do, which doesn't help me, or we stand around talking about who goes up to her, which is a state killing conversation. I go through to the back and spotted this one cutie with long curly blond hair and tried to laser eye her as I walked through. She didn't notice me. I made some excuse in my head not to approach. (Retarded!)
Back out at the main bar area, I committed to approaching her. Once I fully embraced that commitment, the rest was automatic:
Left foot, right foot, left foot, right foot.....
Stop
Touch as I verbally engage her
Give genuine compliment with breaking rapport tonality
Be chill and have fun
It was on with this girl. Hand squeezes, ignoring everyone else. Her friend walked by and have her the elbow tap and pointed outside, she ignored it at the moment. I think at one point, either because my game wasn't tight, or she really had to go (her friends left us alone and had been waiting outside for her for a few minutes), she said she had to go. My loser mindset thought I had already fucked things up beyond repair, but as she was leaving, there was an excessive amount of touching (around the waist, more hand squeezing), as if she was telling me to be a man an demand that she leave her friends. I failed.....
Definitely could have tried to kiss her, it was there. Some times, I still have this mindset that I am not supposed to kiss a girl until after a "sufficient" amount of time. I need to rid myself of this mentality and go for it when I want to and feel it.
I did some street approaches, but in the rain, and in the dark, just about all the girls were not having it. Other sets occurred, but nothing worth noting.
Rain sucked, we went to this bar in West Village which was having a karaoke night. Didn't see much when i walked in, so I broke from the group to find my girlfriend for the night. I have this thing that turns on and off, where I want to break away from the group and find something before one of the other guys spots her first. I find that when someone else spots her first, it can turn out one of two ways, he goes in before I do, which doesn't help me, or we stand around talking about who goes up to her, which is a state killing conversation. I go through to the back and spotted this one cutie with long curly blond hair and tried to laser eye her as I walked through. She didn't notice me. I made some excuse in my head not to approach. (Retarded!)
Back out at the main bar area, I committed to approaching her. Once I fully embraced that commitment, the rest was automatic:
Left foot, right foot, left foot, right foot.....
Stop
Touch as I verbally engage her
Give genuine compliment with breaking rapport tonality
Be chill and have fun
It was on with this girl. Hand squeezes, ignoring everyone else. Her friend walked by and have her the elbow tap and pointed outside, she ignored it at the moment. I think at one point, either because my game wasn't tight, or she really had to go (her friends left us alone and had been waiting outside for her for a few minutes), she said she had to go. My loser mindset thought I had already fucked things up beyond repair, but as she was leaving, there was an excessive amount of touching (around the waist, more hand squeezing), as if she was telling me to be a man an demand that she leave her friends. I failed.....
Definitely could have tried to kiss her, it was there. Some times, I still have this mindset that I am not supposed to kiss a girl until after a "sufficient" amount of time. I need to rid myself of this mentality and go for it when I want to and feel it.
I did some street approaches, but in the rain, and in the dark, just about all the girls were not having it. Other sets occurred, but nothing worth noting.
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Day 2 - 03/25/06 - Mall and Bar Hop
Did another double session today - Again mall and bar hopping
Mall
Saw this hottie walk by and hesitated. I knew I had to approach, so I turned around to see her go into the store. Told my head to pipe down. Didn't work. I commit to running toward the store, and slowing down as I walked in. Delivered opener, she was stunned and startled. Went into shock and awe, and that completely eased her. We chatted for a couple of minutes - she's a flight attendant and leaving in the morning. I should have pushed it (bar, hotel, fun times), but I'm retarded. Approached 2 more girls, with the last one being my first time ever going for a phone number at the mall! Awesome!
Bar hopping
Man, I couldn't get anything going on my street approaches. Oh well, had to give it a try. Went into beauty bar and winged Raven on a set and approached some on my own. I couldn't things going at all with any of the girls. We were about to leave, even though I had spotted this hottie in a hard to get to corner of the bar. I walked through chairs, tables, her friend, to get to her, telling her I had to meet her. I invade personal space, was unfazed by it and conversation flowed. We squeezed into a one seat couch seat. There was an air of sexuality in that conversation, but I didn't take advantage of it. I did build some good comfort with her. KnightRider took pictures of us, with one of them me kissing her on the top of the head and her making a seductive pose (oh yeeeah), and another of her kissing me on the cheek. Left with her number, but I really should have tried to move her, isolate her, and tried to make out with her. Definitely a hottie. I definitely wanted to make out with her.
Bounced around to more bars and did some more street approached, but nothing was really working with me. I'm not sure if I was projecting something negative or weird tonight, I'll try to pay more attention to what I am thinking and feeling next time this happens.
Mall
Saw this hottie walk by and hesitated. I knew I had to approach, so I turned around to see her go into the store. Told my head to pipe down. Didn't work. I commit to running toward the store, and slowing down as I walked in. Delivered opener, she was stunned and startled. Went into shock and awe, and that completely eased her. We chatted for a couple of minutes - she's a flight attendant and leaving in the morning. I should have pushed it (bar, hotel, fun times), but I'm retarded. Approached 2 more girls, with the last one being my first time ever going for a phone number at the mall! Awesome!
Bar hopping
Man, I couldn't get anything going on my street approaches. Oh well, had to give it a try. Went into beauty bar and winged Raven on a set and approached some on my own. I couldn't things going at all with any of the girls. We were about to leave, even though I had spotted this hottie in a hard to get to corner of the bar. I walked through chairs, tables, her friend, to get to her, telling her I had to meet her. I invade personal space, was unfazed by it and conversation flowed. We squeezed into a one seat couch seat. There was an air of sexuality in that conversation, but I didn't take advantage of it. I did build some good comfort with her. KnightRider took pictures of us, with one of them me kissing her on the top of the head and her making a seductive pose (oh yeeeah), and another of her kissing me on the cheek. Left with her number, but I really should have tried to move her, isolate her, and tried to make out with her. Definitely a hottie. I definitely wanted to make out with her.
Bounced around to more bars and did some more street approached, but nothing was really working with me. I'm not sure if I was projecting something negative or weird tonight, I'll try to pay more attention to what I am thinking and feeling next time this happens.
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